Mindfulness is not only a state of
mind, but also the relationship you have with it. The better the relationship
we have with our thoughts the more we are able to be present in every moment on
purpose. We are used to getting caught up in thoughts of things that already
happened or of what to do or say next. You can still reflect on situations or
plan our days, the problem starts when we do it unconsciously at times when we
should be focusing on what’s in front of us. We basically spend a majority of
our lives “half-living” because we are physically there, but our mind is
The reason behind the ongoing
distractions of thoughts is because thoughts usually don’t come alone, they are
almost always accompanied by feelings of judgment. If you really observe your
thought process, you will realize that you are arguing with yourself 99% of the
time. “Why did I do that?” “I should’ve said something.” “I need to stop
thinking about this.” “It’s such a bad
day” One thought takes you to the next to the next, until you don’t know how
you got here.
Here are a few attitudes that you could try to cultivate in
your daily life that will move you closer to living in the moment:
judging yourself and every thought you think of. It is what it is. Thoughts are
not you, they are just thoughts.
things unfold in their own time. Don’t rush anything.
Life would be much interesting if we pretended to see things as if for the
first time. Use your senses to feel a moment as if you’ve never experienced it
before. Live everyday as if it’s your first! Meet your best friend for the
first time! (in your mind of course..)
yourself, your intuition is usually more accurate than you think.
That’s my favorite. Don’t set goals, set “intentions” instead. That way you can
hardly fail if you intention was in the right place. Takes the pressure off and
you will definitely do more.
yourself and others the way they are and don’t try to change anything. Just
but doable. Letting go does not mean you don’t care, or you didn’t grow as a
person. It just means you free yourself from the weight that comes with the
I know what you’re thinking. What
does that have anything to do with being present? When I first started doing
mindfulness, I had the same skepticism. I kept asking, how do we fix what we
don’t acknowledge? How can we be accomplished if we can’t set goals? Well, all
I can say is you need to trust the process in order to feel it’s effect.
Basically when we treat ourselves with compassion and kindness, our bodies and
minds will be more peaceful and eventually heal within themselves.