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Embracing the journey of going "nowhere", just being "now" "here". 

Sharing my self taught experiences from being married to moving from Kuwait to Montréal.

Mindfulness - what is it really about?

Mindfulness - what is it really about?

Mindfulness is not only a state of
mind, but also the relationship you have with it. The better the relationship
we have with our thoughts the more we are able to be present in every moment on
purpose. We are used to getting caught up in thoughts of things that already
happened or of what to do or say next. You can still reflect on situations or
plan our days, the problem starts when we do it unconsciously at times when we
should be focusing on what’s in front of us. We basically spend a majority of
our lives “half-living” because we are physically there, but our mind is
somewhere else.  The reason behind the ongoing
distractions of thoughts is because thoughts usually don’t come alone, they are
almost always accompanied by feelings of judgment. If you really observe your
thought process, you will realize that you are arguing with yourself 99% of the
time. “Why did I do that?” “I should’ve said something.” “I need to stop
thinking about this.” “It’s such a  bad 
day” One thought takes you to the next to the next, until you don’t know how
you got here.   Here are a few attitudes that you could try to cultivate in
your daily life that will move you closer to living in the moment:    Non-judgmental:  Stop
judging yourself and every thought you think of. It is what it is. Thoughts are
not you, they are just thoughts.    Patience:  Let
things unfold in their own time. Don’t rush anything.    Beginner’s Mind: 
Life would be much interesting if we pretended to see things as if for the
first time. Use your senses to feel a moment as if you’ve never experienced it
before. Live everyday as if it’s your first! Meet your best friend for the
first time! (in your mind of course..)   Trust:  Trust
yourself, your intuition is usually more accurate than you think.   Non-striving: 
That’s my favorite. Don’t set goals, set “intentions” instead. That way you can
hardly fail if you intention was in the right place. Takes the pressure off and
you will definitely do more.    Acceptance:  Accept
yourself and others the way they are and don’t try to change anything. Just
don’t.     Letting-go:  Hard
but doable. Letting go does not mean you don’t care, or you didn’t grow as a
person. It just means you free yourself from the weight that comes with the
experience.    I know what you’re thinking. What
does that have anything to do with being present? When I first started doing
mindfulness, I had the same skepticism. I kept asking, how do we fix what we
don’t acknowledge? How can we be accomplished if we can’t set goals? Well, all
I can say is you need to trust the process in order to feel it’s effect.
Basically when we treat ourselves with compassion and kindness, our bodies and
minds will be more peaceful and eventually heal within themselves.

Mindfulness is not only a state of mind, but also the relationship you have with it. The better the relationship we have with our thoughts the more we are able to be present in every moment on purpose. We are used to getting caught up in thoughts of things that already happened or of what to do or say next. You can still reflect on situations or plan our days, the problem starts when we do it unconsciously at times when we should be focusing on what’s in front of us. We basically spend a majority of our lives “half-living” because we are physically there, but our mind is somewhere else.

The reason behind the ongoing distractions of thoughts is because thoughts usually don’t come alone, they are almost always accompanied by feelings of judgment. If you really observe your thought process, you will realize that you are arguing with yourself 99% of the time. “Why did I do that?” “I should’ve said something.” “I need to stop thinking about this.” “It’s such a bad day” One thought takes you to the next to the next, until you don’t know how you got here.

Here are a few attitudes that you could try to cultivate in your daily life that will move you closer to living in the moment:

Non-judgmental: Stop judging yourself and every thought you think of. It is what it is. Thoughts are not you, they are just thoughts.

Patience: Let things unfold in their own time. Don’t rush anything.

Beginner’s Mind: Life would be much interesting if we pretended to see things as if for the first time. Use your senses to feel a moment as if you’ve never experienced it before. Live everyday as if it’s your first! Meet your best friend for the first time! (in your mind of course..)

Trust: Trust yourself, your intuition is usually more accurate than you think.

Non-striving: That’s my favorite. Don’t set goals, set “intentions” instead. That way you can hardly fail if you intention was in the right place. Takes the pressure off and you will definitely do more.

Acceptance: Accept yourself and others the way they are and don’t try to change anything. Just don’t.  

Letting-go: Hard but doable. Letting go does not mean you don’t care, or you didn’t grow as a person. It just means you free yourself from the weight that comes with the experience.  

I know what you’re thinking. What does that have anything to do with being present? When I first started doing mindfulness, I had the same skepticism. I kept asking, how do we fix what we don’t acknowledge? How can we be accomplished if we can’t set goals? Well, all I can say is you need to trust the process in order to feel it’s effect. Basically when we treat ourselves with compassion and kindness, our bodies and minds will be more peaceful and eventually heal within themselves.

Mindful Photography

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